I hope soon you'll realize you can't enjoy sex with whores, it isn't the condom my friend, you're not supposed to have sex with multiple strangers like that. And there is something way worse about you guys doing it, coming from wealthy countries to prey on poor, desperate women.
You can pay everything, anal, raw, you will always feel that hole . Your future sexual life if you're lucky to find a wife and real intimacy will suffer, comparisons, that transactionality itmeses up your brain, and more horrible side effects.
And it isn't just hatred I feel, but sadness, you're not gonna be happy this way
I did this shit as well, but I was young and confused, travelling all the way here, probably older,I feel shame for all of you.
Stop seeing whores, stop porn, and find some real intimacy. Otherwise you'll just have a downgraded, immoral version of sex and you'll regret it.
My two cents
Dear Thewidkedalf: Thanks for sharing your experience and thoughts and I wish the best for you. I'm sure that some and/or all of what you shared about your self resonates with others in whole or in part. At the same time, I hope you will come to realize that there's a bit of over reach and projection going on when you take your personalized journey (experience, thoughts, etc) and blindly project it on to random strangers who post anonymously. Just like yourself, every single person who engages in this hobby (as well as the providers) have their own personal story and perspectives. Your truths are just that, your own...and not necessarily everyone else's and you are not in a position to ascertain anything about others just by reading random posts pertaining to paid sexual services. As I was reading your sincerely driven rant, I couldn't keep track of how many "you", "your", etc were used in addressing people who you know nothing about. Same goes for some of the absolutist type of assertions you made. Your story and concern for others seems heartfelt and sincere, so I take no offense, but I think taking a minute to realize that despite your strong views stemming from your own personal history and choices made, it doesn't automatically apply to every Tom, Dick, or Harry that may post here or other forums related to paid sexual services.
Perhaps some alternative perspectives might help you or may be it wont, but I'll share some things about myself and another person whom IC know well back in the states. About myself, I am a widower of 3 years, my beloved wife died when a drunk driver T-boned her car on the driver side at an intersection that he sped through a red light he was too drunk to see. It obviously devastated me and after 3 years having past that traumatic time, I'm still emotionally and mentally unprepared to pursue a meaningful relationship. For the past 3 years, the need for a meaningful, emotional, and even companionship need died when my beloved wife did. I have moved forward and am no longer in mourning but I just don't have a need for a relationship currently. Having said this, my physical appetite for sex and libido did not die when my beloved wife did. I have always had a high sex drive and we as a couple always had a very active and content sex life. After she died, like my appetite for food, my high sex drive and libido went dormant for about half a year but eventually came back and I did nothing about it because I was not one to have sex outside of a relationship. However, over time the suppression of my libido caused many other unrelated challenges and problems in my life to such an extent that I had to seek counseling. I think it goes without saying that that the best sex that can be had is with a person you have a connection with beyond the physical (or real intimacy as you call it). But it is not an all or nothing sceanario for everyone. And for me, after a long process and facing certain realities, I feel content enough to resort to paid sexual services in the most ethical manner I can to take care of my high sex drive until if and when I'm ready to engage in the process of having a meaningful relationship again.
Regarding porn watching....I, and I assume at least some others as well, are not necessarily porn watching addicts or even occasional consumers. Porn has never done anything for me except it gave my wife and I ideas at times regarding trying certain positions, etc. Regarding not enjoying sex as much using a condom, this has been an issue all my life and was an issue with my beloved wife as well...neither she nor I could enjoy our otherwise great sex life using condoms, so yes in my case, it certainly is and has been the condom. Regarding "preying on poor desperate women", if that is what you did back in your days, that doesnt mean every other person is doing the same. As mentioned earlier, I try to be as ethical as possible when using paid sexual providers and have my protocols I have established for myself. Regarding "coming from wealthy countries" yes I am from the U.S. but I was sent here to Medellin for work purposes (I'm an external auditor auditing some branches of Bancolombia here in Medellin). Back in the U.S, if I don't have a mutually beneficial "friends with benefits" type arrangement with someone then I also will use paid sexual services in the U.S, including some women who have a higher net worth then me (I know because I do annual income taxes for some of these providers). These are just some topics that you made absolutist and adamant assertions about that really don't apply to me and I presume a certain number of others.
I was going to also bring up the scenario of a personal female friend of mine who after being diagnosed with breast cancer, her husband left her after she had a double mastectomy, but retained her sexuality and the need to fulfill it until she finds her next life partner. She is an avid porn watcher and despite using masturbation sex toys, she needs engagement with another human being to fulfill her physical needs and also uses paid sex providers. I wont go in to the details of her story apart from the above as this post has become longer then I expected.
Like I said, I don't want to go and on about this (or maybe I already have, lol) but YOUR personal choices, YOUR history, and the consequential lessons that apply to YOU, does not apply to everyone including myself, so I would suggest it be shared that way. While I appreciate your story and your lessons learned and I'm sure there are many things you shared that can benefit and apply to others, I would just suggest that you just share your story and your lessons in a specific post dedicated to this topic rather then on a topic that has nothing to do with the important subject matter you raise. Another suggestion....maybe have some restraint when it comes to making broad assumptions about others and stick to sharing your story so that others, on their own, can do their own self-reflection and apply to their circumstances rather then having you apply to folks you couldn't pick out even if they were standing right in front of you.
For those familiar, much of Maslow's Hammer is in play here....if one's only tool is a hammer, then be careful that you don't think that every problem is a nail. This is a type of cognitive bias where over reliance on familiar tools (or experience/lessons learned) gets applied as a knee jerk reaction to any semblance of a perceived "problem" without first checking if it fits.
I hope you don't take offense to the above as I would like to think that it is as sincere as your unsolicited feedback. Thanks and wish the best for you and all others.
My two pesos (.00054 cents)
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